Hi, I am Farid Karimov. And I'm a workaholic. Stress, headaches, lack of energy. I struggled with this for many years. Recreation. Sport. Proper nutrition. It helped, but not really. Recently, I finally realized my mistake. It is done by 99% of workaholics. Do you do it?
Workaholic Vasya
Take the abstract workaholic Vasya. He scampers in his office, like a slave in a quarry. Forces no longer! But he is smart. Smarter than nature. Now he will deceive her!
Vasya starts pumping energy, coffee, chocolate into himself, depriving himself of sleep ... Plus he psychologically pumps himself up: NLP, visualization, dancing with a tambourine around a photo with a red Ferrari ... Many motivational "gurus" still offer to go into debt ... Well, in short, Vasya continues to bend this stick. While she does not crack, and Vasya does not go ... no, not to the morgue, but almost to the hospital. Neurosis, gastritis, migraine, high blood pressure. In short, a young 20-year-old guy with a hospital card, which not every grandmother can boast of.
“I need regular rest in order to restore strength. Well, good! ”Vasya decided.
Spitting, he pushes breaks, weekends and even annual vacations into his super-dense schedule. Well, now that’s all right. Vasya will work less, but more productively.
So?
Not this way! Yes, the steam from this inflated kettle comes out a little, and the worst is over. But stress, and headaches, and, most strange, lack of energy - everything is in place.
Well, now what's wrong?
A small but fatal mistake
Catch a workaholic when he comes back from rest. And ask him: "What did you do?" He will answer you something like: “I was resting. He played on the computer. "
At this moment, carefully look at his face. You will see how uncomfortable and embarrassing he is. He clearly feels guilty about his vacation. In nine cases out of ten, he will immediately add something like: “Well, I’ve worked four hours without rest before that” or “I’ve translated 100 500 characters today”. He makes excuses!
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Here it is, the main mistake! A workaholic cannot rest without feeling guilty.
In the worst case, he always thinks about work. From time to time he takes out a smartphone and checks mail. Or read the news. In the best case, he does not remember about work at all. But guilt is constantly hanging somewhere in the subconscious. This feeling spoils the whole rest. It does not allow him to recover for real.
They may object to me that ...
... on vacation often comes an inspiration for work.
I agree, but not when you think about work. It usually lights up when you are completely relaxed and your thoughts soar elsewhere. And suddenly - TYDYSHCH! - insight. For such cases, I carry a voice recorder with me. I wrote it down and continue to rest further.
How to get rid of guilt?
Change your attitude towards relaxation. Rest is not a break between work. Rest is a reward for a good job. You deserve your vacation and should enjoy the award with a light heart.
Plus connects to "self-training." Work will become more desirable if you know that for it you will receive a “piece of sugar” - rest.
Leisure
An active holiday will also help you. If I play football and a 100-kilogram defender runs at me ... I stupidly have no time to worry about work! I'm all in the game, all in the "stream".
But the exercise machine or my favorite walk is no longer suitable. They leave the opportunity to think about work.
Total
Only then rest is complete when:
You are out of the workplace.
You do not think about work.
You do not feel guilty about rest.
This inconspicuous third point can ruin everything. Do not forget about him!
Workaholic Vasya
Take the abstract workaholic Vasya. He scampers in his office, like a slave in a quarry. Forces no longer! But he is smart. Smarter than nature. Now he will deceive her!
Vasya starts pumping energy, coffee, chocolate into himself, depriving himself of sleep ... Plus he psychologically pumps himself up: NLP, visualization, dancing with a tambourine around a photo with a red Ferrari ... Many motivational "gurus" still offer to go into debt ... Well, in short, Vasya continues to bend this stick. While she does not crack, and Vasya does not go ... no, not to the morgue, but almost to the hospital. Neurosis, gastritis, migraine, high blood pressure. In short, a young 20-year-old guy with a hospital card, which not every grandmother can boast of.
“I need regular rest in order to restore strength. Well, good! ”Vasya decided.
Spitting, he pushes breaks, weekends and even annual vacations into his super-dense schedule. Well, now that’s all right. Vasya will work less, but more productively.
So?
Not this way! Yes, the steam from this inflated kettle comes out a little, and the worst is over. But stress, and headaches, and, most strange, lack of energy - everything is in place.
Well, now what's wrong?
A small but fatal mistake
Catch a workaholic when he comes back from rest. And ask him: "What did you do?" He will answer you something like: “I was resting. He played on the computer. "
At this moment, carefully look at his face. You will see how uncomfortable and embarrassing he is. He clearly feels guilty about his vacation. In nine cases out of ten, he will immediately add something like: “Well, I’ve worked four hours without rest before that” or “I’ve translated 100 500 characters today”. He makes excuses!
Related article: How to do away with rummages and work on the weekend?
Here it is, the main mistake! A workaholic cannot rest without feeling guilty.
In the worst case, he always thinks about work. From time to time he takes out a smartphone and checks mail. Or read the news. In the best case, he does not remember about work at all. But guilt is constantly hanging somewhere in the subconscious. This feeling spoils the whole rest. It does not allow him to recover for real.
They may object to me that ...
... on vacation often comes an inspiration for work.
I agree, but not when you think about work. It usually lights up when you are completely relaxed and your thoughts soar elsewhere. And suddenly - TYDYSHCH! - insight. For such cases, I carry a voice recorder with me. I wrote it down and continue to rest further.
How to get rid of guilt?
Change your attitude towards relaxation. Rest is not a break between work. Rest is a reward for a good job. You deserve your vacation and should enjoy the award with a light heart.
Plus connects to "self-training." Work will become more desirable if you know that for it you will receive a “piece of sugar” - rest.
Leisure
An active holiday will also help you. If I play football and a 100-kilogram defender runs at me ... I stupidly have no time to worry about work! I'm all in the game, all in the "stream".
But the exercise machine or my favorite walk is no longer suitable. They leave the opportunity to think about work.
Total
Only then rest is complete when:
You are out of the workplace.
You do not think about work.
You do not feel guilty about rest.
This inconspicuous third point can ruin everything. Do not forget about him!
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